Travelling with your best friend always sounds like a good idea. I mean, it’s the dream right? Or maybe you’ve heard too many horror stories of friendships gone wrong, to want to take the risk? “Travelling will either make or break your relationship” or so they say. Honestly I think this really depends on how you approach to the situation. Travelling definitely ‘made’ my friendship with my best friend Rachel. So I’m going to provide you with a few tips that helped us survive our trip together and come home closer than ever.
Be open about your expectations of the trip.
This is something you need to do in the planning stages of your trip. Your holiday needs to be enjoyable for the both of you, so you need to communicate what you actually want out of the trip. It’s never going to work if you rock up at the location and one of you wants to lie on the beach, while the other is keen to go mountain climbing. It’s about communication and compromise. Rachel is a mad history buff, while I prefer to enjoy the culture and scenery of a place. So we had to make some compromises. We would visit historical sites on one day, and explore the streets or visit a beach on the next. At each location we made sure we both got to do all the things we wanted to do.
Don’t be afraid to do your own thing.
Just because you are on holidays together doesn’t mean you have to be attached at the hip. If you’re running out of days, and going to do whatever your bestie wants means that you will miss out on the thing you want to do, then it might be time to split up. Don’t miss out on doing the things you want because you feel like you need to stick together. You don’t want to resent each other at the end of the trip, plus, it means you will both have awesome stories to tell each other at the end of the day! If you are going to split up though, be safe. Keep in contact and set a time you both need to be back by. That way you can both enjoy your activities and the peace of mind that your friend is okay.
Make sure things are fair.
Whether this be with money, accommodation, the window seat on the train; make sure you are sharing things evenly with your friend. Little things like hogging the good seat on the train/plane might seem petty on a normal day, but these sort of things build up when you are spending every day together while you’re travelling. Being considerate of each other and making sure things fair, is an easy way to make your travels together flow smoothly and avoid unnecessary arguments.
You will fight, and that’s okay.
Travelling is an amazing experience, and travelling with your best friend is even better. But it’s not all sunshine and daisies. It usually leads to a lack of sleep and being exhausted. Rachel and I are also both prone to getting pretty hangry. I found that these times were usually the only times we would snap at each other. And honestly, it’s to be expected. If you’re spending extended periods of time with someone, you are bound to argue at one point or another. The important thing is to admit your mistakes, and forgive each other. Get some sleep, have something to eat, cool down, apologise, forgive, and move on to enjoy the rest of your adventures together.
All these things might seem pretty obvious, but remembering them while you’re planning your trip, as well as while you’re away, will minimise the stress on your friendship and maximise the enjoyment of your adventure as a whole.
Let me know if you have any other trips that have helped your friendships while travelling!